Today I was teaching at the University. I handed back two assignments in one class. As one might expect, some students did well on both, while others did well only on one (nobody struggled with both). Those in the second group started to get down on themselves for their lower grades. I told them not to worry about that, since we could work on it, but instead to focus on what they did well and enjoy it. Their response startled me : most of them could not remember a teacher telling them that before, and they liked it.
So how do these two things fit together? Well, parenting a child with challenges has taught me that if I dwell on the negative, we will both drown. It's just too overwhelming. If I focus on the positive, however, then we can both grow. Without my son, who knows when I would have learned this lesson? I'm just grateful that I did, and that I had the chance to pass it on.